Will You Still Love Me When I'm No Longer Young and Beautiful?

Another day, another story of a husband cheating on his wife. I'm numb to it now. Dean thought I'd be shocked at the news, I wish.

I was reminded by another friend that wives cheat too, yes I know that, I've known of a couple who have, but 90% of the cheating I've known of in my life time was men finding someone thinner, younger, completely different than their wives. And I'd say, 85% of those were over weight middle aged guys, who actually cheated on beautiful wives.

The whole thing is nauseating.

I guess I'm much more affected by it all then I care to admit.

I've told Dean what would happen to him if he got a wild hair and decided to trade me for someone younger and hotter. A sleeping pill, sharp serrated knife and a wood chipper, garbage disposal, or meat grinder, will be used to take care of his male reproductive organ.

I honestly think I'd lose my frickin mind.

What all this cheating proves is we are material girls and we live in a material world and if anyone tells you differently they are lying. Our material things that we must have in this suck reality is gym memberships, high priced cosmetics, plastic surgery for our aging faces and bodies, money for shrinks, yoga, massages, relaxing tea and lots of wine to help us old bags not be so bitchy, cuz' heaven forbid husbands have to live in a house with a fat, old, cranky unattractive wife.

And they don't have to, so they don't. They go and dip their wick in a younger, hotter, not so seasoned by life, girl who makes them feel special.

Like the world, so goes the church.

"Will you still love me when I'm no longer young and beautiful?" Needs to be asked as part of wedding vows.

The church over spiritualises marriage on one hand with cliche's like, "the closer you grow toward God, the closer you will grow together." yet at the same time they take away the truly spiritual depth of this union by continuing to place men on pedestals and program women to believe their goal in life is to make that husband happy.

The result is men feeling as if they are growing closer to God because they are being lifted up and celebrated in their churches, yet farther apart from their wives because she knows him, she is his reality not his rain maker, and wives trying hard to be everything to their husbands, their kids, their community, and their church, yet all that resulting in loosing their husbands to younger women.

It's all just bull crap.

The church has become work, maintaining "the church" consumes us, our families, our lives. But that isn't what church is for, it was intended as a place to gather together and grow in our faith. What happened to that? Why did half baked self help teachings, day care for the kids, entertainment for the youth and all consuming environments become what church is? 

Do we not see this is destroying us?

Rant over.

The power of youth is on my mind
Sunsets, small town, I'm out of time.
Will you still love me when I shine
From words but not from beauty?

Old Money- Lana Del Rey


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