Orphan

Warner Bros. new horror movie Orphan proclaims that it must be hard to love an adopted child as much as your own. Let me tell you about how an orphan changed my life. Actually two Orphans have become our children and changed our lives.

Steele was adopted in 2004. We adopted Steele at birth. He was considered special needs because he is a boy and biracial and therefore considered harder to place.

Steele is now 5 years old. He's funny, talkative, loving and he fills our hearts with such joy.

We also have Abel. He's only been home with us for 6 months. He's from Ethiopia, 7 years old and he lost both his parents to AIDS as a baby. His grandmother raised him until 2007 when she could no longer care for him and so put him up for adoption.

Abel entering our family was a divine appointment. We truly believe that God planned our family this way. He's kind, funny, a hard worker, loves to laugh and play. Sure there have been challenges with attachment, him grieving, everyone adjusting. But as far as love, love is here and it is knitting all our hearts together. It is a process, but it is going on right now and will continue.

The coolest thing about adopting a child, is you get to see them fall in love with you, and you with them.

That is an amazing gift. Watching love grow is a joy beyond description. Evangeline and Steele act as if Abel has always been a part of our family. I often times will tear up watching them all together, or watching Steele with Abel or Abel with Evangeline, the love between them, the enjoyment of each others company, the affection shared, is truly supernatural and wonderful.

I have posted freely about the issues faced by families who adopt older children. I have said several times how the issues are not harder they are just different then the ones faced by families who only birth their kids. But love is there, it covers, makes a way, heals, and gives the strength needed.

I'm ready to do it again. I want to adopt a girl, around 3 or 4 years old, with HIV. Dean is not ready YET but he isn't saying never...just later.

I wish every family would consider adoption or at least help others who want to adopt. Orphans need families and I know that we needed Abel and Steele to become a part of our family just as much as they needed us.

Please check out orphansdeservebetter.org

Comments

I saw the movie trailor on TV the other day and thought how horrible that movie will be. I couldn't believe that they would make something about someone so unbelievably vunerable and in need of advocacy.
Anonymous said…
I like what you had to say in this, and I know it was done with a good heart. But I am a little disturbed that you put your children's private history out on the internet for everyone to read. It should be kept private for them. It isn't worth it to make a point if you have to sacrefice their privacy.
Carole Turner said…
Thank you both for your comments.

Anon. I did remove the information about Steele's birth family because they are alive and It might hurt them if they ever read it. So, thanks for bringing that to my attention. But I don't feel like many do in the adoption community that we should not tell their stories, I'm sorry, I just disagree with that so I left in Abel's history since his parents are no longer alive.

Thanks for reading my blog post. God Bless.
Erin Moore said…
Carole,
Thanks for sharing your heart. I adore your beautiful family!
Megan said…
You have a beautiful family and I enjoy learning from you. We are very excited to be building our family through adoption. We feel that it is what God planned for us, and we are grateful for the opportunity.
Thank you for being proactive in countering this ugly movie.
Anonymous said…
we too feel we are doing God's work, please see the link >

http://about-orphans.blogspot.com

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