Post Adoption stuff
We just returned from Abel's first doctors visit. He got 4 shots, a tb test and 6 vales of blood drawn. We were sent home with a stool collection kit and a very sad hungry child. The drawing of the blood was last, and let's just say, he had had enough by then. It was traumatic for everyone. He had a complete meltdown freak out.....you know, like Steele acts at even the mention of a shot :-)
While I was waiting in between shots and exams, I was thinking about how we all parent so different. I used to be against Immunizations but when I had Steele I changed my mind. I respect more then words can say, my friends who don't immunize and I will defend them to anyone. I just know what I have to do for my family.
We are almost at our one month home date (this Friday) We have already started going and doing some and we will slowly return to our normal craziness over the next month.
I know some people wonder why Abel can do and go to some places, some time but then I decide at another time he can't for attachment reasons. Again, I just have to know when is too much, and what. God blesses us with a mothers Instinct even for a 7 yr old.
The thing is, well meaning people don't seem to "get" the whole post adoption time. I know people have questions, they ask them and some just make comments. Believe me, I am eating and choking on every judgmental though I ever had of mom's who adopted older kids. I knew better then them, yea, wrong! So, I am just saying trust that we have researched what is needed, been taught by our agency, I've read "Parenting the Hurt Child" and other books and unless you have adopted an older child, you really don't know what is best.
Jullian wrote a post over at her blog about all this,
If your considering adopting an older child, or just want to know some of what we deal with, I suggest you check it out. I have not had any bad experiences really, everyone has been so kind and understanding so I appreciate that more then words can say.