Blog Maturity 101

1. Each blog you visit is the internet "home" of someone.You wouldn't dare walk into a home and run your mouth at the host. It's inappropriate to do on blogs as well. It's just ugly and you end up looking stupid. Don't do it. It's immature.

2. Any attack on a blog is a public attack.It's one thing to debate a friend in college where it's you two in a room or sitting out on the grass with no one else around. Imagine if you took some of those debates and broadcasted them to every dorm room on campus. Yeah. Be aware of what you say. You can look stupid, no matter how 'valid' your point may be.

3. It takes time to type so people will judge you a little tougher.When everyone knows you took time to type your thought it gets a little more scrutiny than if you just said something in a conversation. It's one thing (still dumb) to blurt out something ignorant in a conversation b/c you don't have the facts or you come off as rude but to type it solidifies any thought of you being immature or ignorant. Read what you type. You have time to think it through!

4. A sign of maturity is the ability to delay gratification.One thing that separates a mature person from the immature is the ability to hold back from immediate gratification. This is true for the blog world. We all have opinions.I was in a conversation yesterday with a former co-worker (at our mother church) who said "So Tally what do you think?" and I said sheepishly "I don't have an opinion". She smiled and said "Yeah, Right!" The reality is I usually do have an opinion.If you have a brain you have a thought but not every thought has to be brought forward and presented in the dialogue. I try to operate on terms of 'value added'. When I'm considering posting I ask "Is what I'm about to say going to add value to the conversation?" My "opinion" sometimes means NOTHING to the core of the author's post. Therefore I keep my golden brain to myself no matter how great I think I may be at the time.

5. Look up the term Ad Hominem.I'll do the work for you: [
link]The jest of an Ad hominem is that it's an attack on the person rather than the argument. I see this so much in the blog world it makes me sick.Goes a little like this--Author: "So and so is doing something amazing for God."Immature Blogger: "So and so is a blank and blank. Why doesn't so and so just become more humble, LIKE ME!"Don't attack the person. If you disagree and you must get your thought on record, do it in a civil way. Don't go after people. If you must, talk about the idea presented.

6. You can be both true and Wrong at the same time!For many immature bloggers they don't understand that perception is reality. Although the context of what they are saying is true, how they are spraying is wrong. For effective communication both parts must be able to be received.. the saying AND the spraying.Those who don't want to work to make their communication better received by their audience have lowered themselves to bully status. "I'll say what I want and you WILL listen or else". The 'or else' in blog world is usually "Or else I'll keep posting!"So there you have it... some thoughts to consider. If you don't like them it's okay to disagree. Just disagree in the right manner and we can all play in the sandbox together.

Bonus Features for Christ-followers:
Matthew 18:15-17
James 3:2-12
James 1:26
Matthew 12:36-371
Corinthians 10:23-
"Everything is permissible"but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible" but not everything is constructive.

posted by Tally @ To Empower and Equip Friday, June 24, 2005


Anonymous said…
Now you have the rules for all comments? After you allowed the bashing of the entire SBC'ers and their President and then some people that defended it on your site. Rules from the person who always writes how they don't want to conform and doesnt like rules.
I see how it is and won't read your sandbox then cause it's got poop in it.
How'd you like people to judge your Healing Place Church and Pastor based on you?
Carole Turner said…
Hey, if you feel you can Judge at all, I say go right ahead, cuz' you must be Jesus.
Anonymous said…
I like your rules. They're mainly saying, "Think before you hit enter." Based on you, I think HPC is Heaven on earth, sis.
Anonymous said…
Hay! Who is this anonymous person?
Let me at them! Love MOM
Anonymous said…
I knew Linda would be here soon.
Anonymous said…
Proverbs 18:2

1 Thessalonias 4:11
Carole Turner said…
Hey, These are two of my favorite scriptures!!

I have to tell myself both of them a lot!

Thanks for posting them.

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