Orphans really?

My friend Donna sent me an article about adoption that really made me mad. I was mad at the negative tone of the article but also very disturbed that a lot of it was true.

So, I sent the article to some Orphan care authorities and ask them their opinion on it. And in the mean time I thought long and hard about what I had read.

Here is the original article

The Lie We Love

and this is Jason Kovacs response to it.

The Lie We Love and the Current Face of the Orphan Crisis

Right now my passion is running to high to compose a post about it, I need to pray more and talk less right now, so I will just leave you with the two articles and then this article by Tim Keller;

Wholistic Ministry

The first article is very long so if you don't want to read the entire thing, Jason does a good job dissecting it in his response so you can start there.

Comments

Adopting1Soon said…
Curious:
Did you do this (below) with your agency (which is my agency) and if so what did you find?

"Ask questions. Ask the hard questions. Ask for information on the background of the children. Ask why their one living parent cannot care for them and why they are relinquishing their rights. Ask to see the financial statements and 990’s of the adoption agency and breakdown of where fees are going in country. We can and must report shady practices to the authorities. We can do our homework on the agencies and share information with one another. We can warn one another when flags are raised. All that said, I understand that is difficult to do when you are in the process of adopting and you have fallen in love with a particular child that has been referred to you. Emotions are deep and strong. We want so badly to meet their needs. Maybe, the onus is on those of us who have already adopted and are not as emotionally invested in particular situations to do the needed research."
Carole Turner said…
Yes, I did ask a lot of questions, they gave me as much information as they could. Our son is older so there is more information on them. His parents died when he was 2, he was living with his grandmother who for whatever reason felt she could no longer care for him two years ago. He has pictures of when she dropped him off and some that she brought to court with her in December, when she had to appear before the judge and say that she relinquished custody.

I am happy with our agency. I think they gave us as much as they knew.

The article is more focused on babies, children under 5, but especially infants.
Archie Mck said…
That's crazy. To be honest I've never really looking into these numbers but wow, glad someone is bringing attention to as issue like this.

(I only read the response article)
Anonymous said…
As far as the International Orphan article. Unfortunately our new fearless leader reopened the law for US foreign aid to perform abortions in 3rd world countries (which you probably know). Given that most women in those areas really do not have all the rights, I am quite sure their "choice" (or pressure to do so) will often end in the termination of that life. This will greatly reduce population which will excite the United Nations.

http://www.lifenews.com/int977.html

Because after all, heaven forbid we have caring people like yourself spending your life in what some would see a waste of money and time. So let’s just spend a little bit of our hard working tax dollars for the US to line up with the UN to put the squeeze on these mothers with nothing and convince them that ending the life of their baby is the only way out and the only way they will get assistance in their poverty. After all the stem cells would be worth more money in today’s selfish, crappy, egocentric society than the life it came from.

What a wonderful world.

Can you tell I am a bit upset?



Take care Carol.

Keep the passion.



Keith
Anonymous said…
Carole,

Thanks for posting these three articles. I read through them all this evening and was challenged on many levels.

My bias:
1) My wife and I have an adopted son from Ethiopia, who was 9 months old when we received him. He was abandoned.
2) I work for Life in Abundance International and our organization very much believes that prevention is THE viable solution to the global orphan crisis. In fact, our newsletter coming out next week explicitly highlights this position.

With that said, I'm not all that disturbed by the FP article. It is becoming increasingly clear that 95% of internationally orphaned children have at least some extended family member who could care for the 'orphaned' child, if they were somehow financially empowered to do so. I was pleased to see this figure quoted in Jason's article.

In reality, the circumstances facing orphans and/or vulnerable children are not as cut and dry as we would like to assume. I have seen it first hand, and our in-country staff see it every day. Identification documents are unavailable. Communication barriers are the norm. Persistent poverty exacerbates the already fragile situation.

Our organization has some big ideas on how to keep vulnerable children with their families and how to implement community-based orphan care as an alternative to institution-based care.

However, I think that the biggest challenge for those of us who care deeply for these children (and their families) is to see prevention as a wise 'investment,' rather than assuming that the curative approach (adoption) is the optimal solution.

143 Million. 132 Million. 650,000. Honestly, I don't really care. If there is 1, the Church of Jesus must be at the forefront of working to care for that orphan. At the same time we must be equally, if not more so, concerned with preventing those that would be added to that number.

Grace and Peace.